I'm so sorry for the lack of updates! I don't have proper internet access at my home and my landlord won't fix it, so I don't have the opportunity to update on a regular basis. It's highly annoying!
Lately, I decided that I don't feel like a lolita anymore. So I decided to not call myself a lolita anymore, and I most likely won't participate much in the lolita community anymore. I used to wear lolita on a regular basis, which later turned to wearing it only occasionally, at events. By now I haven't worn lolita in... probably a year. So I think I've grown out of it, even though I still like the style, and still consider it a hobby of mine.
I also think my interest in wearing it faded because of the changes in the community. When I first got into lolita (which was 2007 or so), it was okay to just wear some pretty make-up. But now, wearing wigs, lenses and eyelashes almost seem like a requirement. I don't feel like a pretty lolita anymore if I don't wear them, so for me the fun is gone. I never liked all those fake things.
I sold all of my lolita clothes, except two dresses and a blouse and cutsew, and some accessories I love. I'm still planning on wearing them every now and then. It's just that there are other things in my life now, which make me much happier. I've come to realize that in the end, lolita fashion really is just clothes.
One of the most important things in my life right now, are horses. When I started to wear lolita, I forgot how much I love horses and what a positive influence they have on my mood and confidence. I never got such a positive energy from anything else.
I'll get some photo's of horses printed soon, and these two will most likely be printed and framed. Most people who know me on Facebook already know these are two of my favorite photo's. I just can't get anough of them.
On the photo on the left you can see me with Omo, the pony I started out with a year and a half ago. She made me gain trust, and I did my first bareback canter in 10 years on her back!
The one on the right is me and Moira, a lovely Friesian. I was a little scared of tall horses, but she helped me gain trust. One fun fact: She always refuses to lift up one of her hind feet, but I managed to do so once I started feeling more comfortable around her. Things like that are a great confidence boost, so looking at this photo reminds me that you can get over fears, and that more self-confidence has a positive effect for yourself and others.
To close off this entry, I decided to post some pictures of one of my recent looks. As I said before, the trends I currently like are:
- Peter pan collars
- Studs and spikes
- Crosses
I'm not wearing any crosses on these photo's, but I am wearing some of my favourite things. Including my new boots! I was very lucky to find them in my size, because they were constantly sold out. Do you like them?
I'm also wearing my new mascara in the photo's, which is a new favourite of mine. It's the Chanel Inimitable Intense mascara. If anyone's interested, I might do a review!
That's all for now, I hope you liked the pictures, and that you're having a lovely autum.
Love, Nonette
You look so wonderfull!♥ That outfit looks great on you, and I love the shoes. I hope you will post an outfit photo of you wearing the white dress with the cute collar as well ^^
BeantwoordenVerwijderenAnd I like the two photo's of you with these beautiful horses, but the second one is my favourite ♥ It shows alot of trust, friendship, love and also confidence.
And yes, in the end lolita is just clothing. And it's understandable that you have grown out of it, because I think everyone will eventually reach that point sooner or later. For myself I only wear it at meet-ups, and not on a daily base anymore, and that's enough. And I know what you mean about the wigs, the lenses and fake eyelashes. I really started to wear wigs when I had cut my hair short a few years ago, but if I had long hair of myself I would also just use my own hair (and at times a wig because it's just easy at times). I don't like the lenses, so I wouldn't wear them myself, and I also don't like to wear the fake eyelashes, though I have worn them a few times, but mostly at events such as summer darkness. Things do have changed alot when you compare how it was several years ago. Nobody wore wigs back then!
I do miss the good old times though, the community has changed now. And the new people that sign up at the forum are all like strangers to me. It doesn't feel as cozy as it used to be. (But alot of people are on facebook anyway). Though I'm happy to know alot of wonderfull people through this fashionstyle ^^
But you have always looked incredible and stunning when you wore lolita. You always looked so elegant ♥
Whoa, thank you for your long comment!
VerwijderenI'm glad you like the outfit, I wasn't sure if it looked terribly unbalanced or not. I'm really fond of the shoes, though I haven't worn them out yet. I'm afraid they'll get dirty, the streets here are the most dirty streets I've ever seen. Dog poo everywhere!
I think the second photo is my favorite too, although the white pony means more to me than the black horse. But they're both real sweethearts ^^
The thing with lolita is, that I still absolutely love it on others, but when I wear it myself I don't feel pretty or comfortable at all. And I have no idea what the reason for that is, because when I look at pictures of myself, I do like my outfits. It's just a feeling I guess.
Sometimes I wish I could just feel pretty in lolita again, and wear an outfit whenever I feel like it. I have those moments when I really feel like wearing lolita, but I don't like to spend so much time on getting ready. It always took me about 3 hours to do my hair and makeup and stuff. Also, I don't want to backcomb my hair anymore because it's so damaging, but I also don't like to wear wigs. I think all in all, it just takes too much time and energy to be able to enjoy actually wearing it.
It would be so much more fun if it all wouldn't be such a hassle. I don't mind if it's for an event or party, but to take so much effort without going anywhere... it's not worth it. But without all the hassle, I don't feel like I look pretty enough for today's 'lolita standards'.
I've never really been a part of the community, because I've always been too shy. But it seems to me that most new people are lots younger than myself. I'm very thankful for the people I got to know through lolita fashion, but I really don't feel the need to get to know new people anymore. I feel like I already know everyone I would like to know ^^
Thank you, you're too kind <3
I think you look much more amazing in lolita, though!